Learn to be conscious not just in how you act, but in how you REACT. Every action has a reaction, and it's usually the REACTION that lives in our memories. React wisely. Very few people will ever stop to consider how they treated you, even fewer will admit they did you wrong. So expect nothing, take note of everything, and eventually what you learn about someone's character is the very thing to save you from the heartache they would cause you. A person with bad intentions towards you is counting on your reaction to shift the blame to you. Don't let them. You're not responsible for how people treat you, just how you react to it. React less, eventually their ammo runs dry and what men meant for evil God will use for good.